Friday, August 14, 2009

Studying...Created to be His Help Meet

We are studying the book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet. Through our study of this book, we are going to learn what it means to be a help meet and actually living the role that God created us as women to fill. I've read this book once before and applied many of the things that Mrs. Pearl spoke of, and it has transformed an already good marriage into nothing short of awesome!! I encourage you to purchase this book and follow along or at the very least, check out the Pearl's website at
Any text taken directly from Mrs. Pearl's book will be highlighted in blue.

Part 1: The Help Meet
Chapter 2: A Merry Heart

Go back. Go way back to the time when you met your DH. How did you act around hi? Were you happy? Giggly? Full of smiles?

I remember how I was: Anxious to see him. Full of smiles when he walked in. I was glad to be with him. It didn't matter what we had planned. I was just happy that it involved being with him.

Fast forward to today. When DH walks through the door, who greets him? Is it that happy, smiling woman he met and fell in love with or the polar opposite?

The point of Mrs. Pearl's book is not to change our man or to let our man 'off the hook'. We cannot change them. They must be willing to change of their own free will. the point of this book and this study is to change us and our way of thinking.

Does your hubby seem withdrawn, out of sorts? Take an honest look at yourself. Ask yourself how have you changed--not how has your man changed. We as women tend to think that we are as we have always been. Fact is, like every other human we change with time as well.

Do you still pretty yourself up for your man? Are you encouraging to him? Does he come home to smiles and laughter, hugs and kisses? If you answer no or not often to even one of's time for you to make a change.

If every time your DH is in your presence all you do is complain, whine and nag...he is not going to want to be around you. Do you like being around your children when they act that way?? I don't!! Honestly...when I'm in that kind of bad, depressing mood, I don't even like being around my own self, why would I expect my DH to desire my company?

So ladies, time for some self examination. Ask yourself are you still showing your man the woman he fell in love with or is he living with a stranger?

If he's living with a stranger, then go before the Father and ask Him to forgive your selfish spirit and replace it with the caring, loving spirit you had long ago.

Get into God's Word and memorize Scripture that encourages you to have be joyful.
Put on a little make up and brush that hair right before he gets home (don't you feel better when you look shows in more than just the physical!!). Have yummy smells of dinner welcoming him home as well as his favorite drink waiting on the counter.

When your man looks at you, let him see your genuine, soft, I love and appreciate you smile. S[end your day reminding yourself of the wonderful things about your hubby and rebuke those ugly, hateful thoughts that try to creep in.

Mrs. Pearl states, "If you have reason to be hurt or discouraged and yet you sing with thanksgiving, this is a true sacrifice of worship to God."

"Let them offer sacrifices of thanksgiving and sing joyfully about his glorious acts."
Psalm 107:22, NLT

I hope you've spent the last week finding ways to help your husband. This week's new habit is to now do those things and more to make your husband smile.

Next week: A Thankful Spirit


Collette@Jesuslovesmums said...

That is such wonderful advice and reminds of the following from Proverbs;
15 A quarrelsome wife is like
a constant dripping on a rainy day;
Love Collette xxx

Andrea said...

Being older we have learned to help each other and we "talk" a lot. Communication is key!
Blessings, andrea

Beth.. One Blessed Nana said...

Great message here. One thing my mom always told me was to always have something besides your kids in common, because one day they will leave home and it will be just you two!

Debbie said...

I'm just thinking about how much better off our society would be if everyone could incorporate this.