Friday, February 12, 2010

Studying...Created to be His Help Meet

We are studying the book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet. Through our study of this book, we are going to learn what it means to be a help meet and actually living the role that God created us as women to fill. I've read this book once before and applied many of the things that Mrs. Pearl spoke of, and it has transformed an already good marriage into nothing short of awesome!! I encourage you to purchase this book and follow along or at the very least, check out the Pearl's website at Any text taken directly from Mrs. Pearl's book will be highlighted in blue.

I realize that in studying Created to be His Help Meet at the rate of one chapter per week, we will be doing this study for approximately 24 weeks. We could go at this at a much faster rate, but I believe that if we truly want to change and fill our God given rolls as help meet to our husbands, then we need to take things slower and put into practice what we are learning. I hope you agree and stay the course with me as we become better help meets together.

Part 2: Titus 2

Chapter 19: Chaste

Chaste: To be pure in our thoughts, our words, our actions; to be modest and honorable in ALL things.

Just take a moment to look at what the word chaste means....does this describe me? Does this describe you?

I believe that many sins, many bad attitudes can be stopped at the thought process. Whatever we think, if dwelt upon, will come out of our mouth which results in it a smart attitude, anger, jealousy---and this is true in our everyday lives, not just our relationship with our husbands.

It's very important that our thoughts are pure, this means well spent time in the Word, this means discernment on what we read, listen to and watch on tv.

It's also important that we be modest in how we dress. I am shocked, amazed, disappointed, saddened, the way women today dress. There is hardly anything left for the imagination and it's no wonder that men feel the boldness to approach a woman in a very derogatory manner.

Men are visual creatures. It's the way God created them, so as women, we can't go around wagging our finger and our tongue accusing men of being filthy, low-down, dogs when everywhere they look they can see a female whose skirt is too short, whose blouse is cut to low, whose bathing suit covers less skin than underwear does!!

When anyone sees an image, a picture, it is forever burned into our memories and we can pull it up at will at any time. Why, why, why would we want to dress in such a way that would cause a Christian brother to stumble or a lost brother to lust??

My family and I have been a part of many churches and ministries over the years and sadly, immodest dress can even be found in our churches. I cannot count how many times we have walked into God's house only to be greeted by low cut shirts and high skirts from teenagers to older women. What kind of example are we setting for the world? More importantly, what kind of example are we setting for the young women in our homes that we are raising and training and praying will grow into godly help meets for their own husbands?

Let me encourage each of us to examine within ourselves, our thoughts, words and actions and let's especially take a look at how we dress. We don't have to look frumpy and we don't have to wear clothing that is 3 sizes too big for us, but let's make sure that we don't look like our clothing has been painted on or that we couldn't afford to buy the whole outfit. Let's leave sexy for the privacy we enjoy with our husbands!!

Next week: Keepers at Home

1 comment:

Joyfull said...

Excellent post! This area is dear to my heart also. Many distractions and actions can be stopped in our minds by bringing our thoughts into subjection to Christ.
As a mother to three sons, modest dressing is a huge area of concern for me as well. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and encouragement today!