Friday, January 9, 2009

A Submissive Wife and a Busy Day

I've got a busy day ahead of me today.

Today is the first real shopping day of the new year for me. DH and I decided that instead of trying to do the finances our own way separately, we would start the new year working on them together. We admitted that in our marriage, finances were the only spot that we were on separate pages and frankly it wasn't working for us. I spent too much and he doesn't want to spend anything.

Now...I know I have all of these posts on saving money, so you're asking how do I spend too much?? Well, like I've confessed before, I have a very hard time passing up a bargain and believe me...there are truly a lot of bargains to be found!! But when a bargain causes you to overspend, it's no longer a bargain.
DH thinks that you can still buy a gallon of milk for $1.25,a loaf of bread for 50¢ and feed 4 adults and the occasional friends on $30 a week...he needed a wake up call as well.

I was concerned at first that when we got ready to sit down together, major problems might surface. I mean, it's not like I have a smart aleck attitude or anything.......But we pray before we begin and as always, God has been faithful. He just takes that big, mighty hand of His and wraps it around my big, mighty mouth! DH and I have actually done a very good job talking about things and staying on the same page.

With that being said, I want to share a couple of other things before I head out for my day:

Centsible Savings has posted part 2 on CVS shopping. Head over and check it out. I don't have a big CVS run today, but I'll share my small trip with you later.

I also wanted to get my post out on yesterday's "wife" lesson.

Lesson 4's title is "She Brings Him Good Not Harm". We can see by the title that I'm already in trouble here..

2 statements on the first page: "Each partner must be willing to minister to the needs of the other regardless of the response" and "...our highest purpose as husbands or wives is to be an instrument for promoting our partners' spiritual and personal welfare." (Lawrence J. Crabb, Jr.)

Like I've said, I think I do pretty good in the submissive wife category, but do I willingly minister to DH regardless of how he will respond? Uhh...not always. I mean, he's suppose to appreciate everything I do. He's suppose to praise me and tell everyone what a blessed man he is to have me in his life. Right?? Well, in all honesty he does these things, but there are times when I do things I think will cause him to rejoice from the rooftop and he never says a word. My feelings get hurt and I run to my corner and pout. Then I decide that if that's the way he's gonna be, we'll see how long it is before I put myself out there again.

But...that's not what I'm suppose to do and it's certainly not how a wife should treat her husband.

A little more studying brought Genesis 3:16 to know, the more I study this, the more I realize just why the Bible is called the Living Word....I've read this stuff countless times and I'm noticing things I've never "seen" before...
This verse says, "....And though your desire will be for your husband, he will be your master." (NLT) What!!?? Another translation reads it like this, "....Yet your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you." (NASB)
Again....What??!!! Plain and simple...he's in charge. Sad thing is, now he has to fight for it.

In Eden, sin corrupted the submissive wife and the loving husband and has been replaced with a struggle for power. This is very evident in today's society. Every where you look, women are demanding to be treated as equal to a man and quite plainly..that's not Bible. That's not how God set this up. It is the very reason so many marriages are in trouble and divorce is rampant. We....I...want to do things my way, not God's and that goes against God in every way.

We also need to realize that, as wives, we influence our husbands. That was made obvious when Eve influenced Adam to eat the fruit. Not only do we influence our husbands, we influence our children. They see how we treat their dad, and they mimic that. If we treat Dad with love and respect, so will our children. If we are hateful and have a bad attitude toward him, so will they.
That is a lot to think about and it's very important to keep that at the front of our minds at all times. I go again. Thinking I'm doing pretty good and realizing there is much work to be done.

I have an amazing husband. He is definitely the man God chose for me, even when I didn't acknowledge God at all. I am so thankful to be so blessed and he's the very reason I decided to get serious about who I am in Christ and who I am as a wife and mom. I want to do him good, not harm, all the days of my life. (Referring to Proverbs 31:12)



momstheword said...

Aren't we glad that the Lord's love for us does not depend on our actions? That's what I think about when I hear the word submissive.

We are to submit, in love, regardless of our husband's actions or response. We submit as unto the Lord, because when we submit to our husbands we are really submitting to Him. Makes it easier when you think of it that way doesn't it?

Sandy said...

I got a chuckle out of this: "DH thinks that you can still buy a gallon of milk for $1.25,a loaf of bread for 50¢ and feed 4 adults and the occasional friends on $30 a week." I think our husbands must know each other.