Friday, December 11, 2009

Studying...Created to be His Help Meet

We are studying the book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet. Through our study of this book, we are going to learn what it means to be a help meet and actually living the role that God created us as women to fill. I've read this book once before and applied many of the things that Mrs. Pearl spoke of, and it has transformed an already good marriage into nothing short of awesome!! I encourage you to purchase this book and follow along or at the very least, check out the Pearl's website at
Any text taken directly from Mrs. Pearl's book will be highlighted in blue.

I realize that in studying Created to be His Help Meet at the rate of one chapter per week, we will be doing this study for approximately 24 weeks. We could go at this at a much faster rate, but I believe that if we truly want to change and fill our God given rolls as help meet to our husbands, then we need to take things slower and put into practice what we are learning. I hope you agree and stay the course with me as we become better help meets together.

Part 1: The Help Meet

Chapter 14: Kings and Kingdoms

We all know and agree that Adam was created first.

We all know and agree that God told him to rule over every living thing and he was to be over woman as well. In that, it stands to reason that most likely the only place he will ever 'rule' over, is his house.

I found it interesting that Mrs. Pearl pointed out that when the President comes to town, even if he's not liked in that area, there is still a lot of preparation that goes into welcoming him to that city. When he gets there, he is treated with respect...not because he necessarily deserves it, but because of the title he holds.

She likened our husbands to being the 'president' of our families. God has given him the role of 'head honcho' and we, as wives, are to welcome him home and have it prepared in a way that will please him and give him respect because of the title God has given him, even if he hasn't truly earned it.

Some may think that being submissive to your husband shows a sign of weakness, but believe me, it's the farthest thing from weak that I can think of. I am a very strong willed woman and I don't give in to submissiveness easily. It is something that for me is very often hard to do. There are many times when I submit because it's what God has asked me to do...not because, hey! that's the way I'm wired and I'm just tickled pink to do it!

However, do not think you can just do for him and not put the emotion behind it. A man can quickly tell if you're reverencing him because it's what you're called to do, or if you're reverencing him because you love God and are totally committed to both of them.

Sometimes it may not seem 'fair' to hand over all of this reverence to a man who hasn't earned it, but remember, God has required our husbands to love us so we should ask ourselves this question....have we earned the right to be loved? I can only answer for me and let me honestly say, there is no way that I continually earn....or even deserve....his love. There are just times when I truly don't deserve it.

Mrs. Pearl makes this statement, "A man will allow his woman many, many faults, as long as he knows that she thinks he is great." This is not a right or wrong thing, this is simply the way God created man thing. Our man wants to be our hero, our reason for getting up in the morning. If he knows she is thankful for him then it won't matter as much how she looks or how clean the house is or whether or not dinner has been burned...he's going to be crazy about his perfect woman because she is crazy about him.

Finally, in this chapter Mrs. Pearl quotes Elisabeth Elliot: "The very heart of reverence is extreme appreciation and profound thankfulness that this man, just as he is, has chosen to love me, just as I am."

With this chapter we have reached the end of Part One. Next week we will begin Part Two which will take us into the book of Titus, chapter 2. Now that we have studied and understand what the true meaning of a help meet is, it's time to actually learn how to put Titus 2 into practice.

Next Week: To Be Sober


Andrea said...

Thankful GOD has given me a wonderful man!
Blessings, andrea

cooperkelly4 said...

I just read this book this year. Passed my copy on and have bought myself another copy. It is wonderful! Kellyc