Friday, March 12, 2010

Studying...Created to be His Help Meet

We are studying the book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet. Through our study of this book, we are going to learn what it means to be a help meet and actually living the role that God created us as women to fill. I've read this book once before and applied many of the things that Mrs. Pearl spoke of, and it has transformed an already good marriage into nothing short of awesome!! I encourage you to purchase this book and follow along or at the very least, check out the Pearl's website at Any text taken directly from Mrs. Pearl's book will be highlighted in blue.

I realize that in studying Created to be His Help Meet at the rate of one chapter per week, we will be doing this study for approximately 24 weeks. We could go at this at a much faster rate, but I believe that if we truly want to change and fill our God given rolls as help meet to our husbands, then we need to take things slower and put into practice what we are learning. I hope you agree and stay the course with me as we become better help meets together.

Part 2: Titus 2

Chapter 23: To Obey or Not To Obey

We have well covered in previous chapters that even when a wife knows her husband is wrong, even when everything in her knows a bad decision is being made, that we are to be obedient, faithful help meets to our husbands. Why? Because the calling on our lives is to be a proper help meet to our husband...not to point out his faults or bad mistakes. He will answer to God for how he led his family and treated them, just as we will stand before God and answer for how we lived out our role as help meet.

However, there are a few instances when obeying our husbands will be met with a no.
Jesus made it very clear in Matthew 22: 21b “...give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar, and give to God what belongs to God.” (NLT)

We are to obey the laws of the land whether we like it or not. However, if the law goes steps out of it's sphere of authority...for example, requiring that we teach our children that homosexuality is not a sin, then we are allowed to disobey.

In talking about our husband's sphere of authority the same can be said, "Render therefore unto your husband that which is your husband's and unto God the things that are God's" (This is stated by Mrs. Pearl's husband, Michael) In other words, your husband will ask things of you, as I said above, that you know may be a wrong decision. Or he may do things that you don't agree that is for the best, your role as help meet is to be a godly example before him even when he is wrong. However, if he asks you to have unnatural sexual relations, you are to turn him down. If he asks you to watch pornography with him or asks others to engage in sexual relations with you, you are to turn him down.

If he asks you to commit a crime, no matter if it's "small" or "big" you are to turn him down.

If he is abusive, towards you or your children, turn him in.

The Pearls encourage women who live or have lived in these type situations to take the proper steps and notify the authorities when necessary, but they also encourage wives to continue to be a help meet to those same men in hopes that 1Peter 3:1 may give birth, "In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives."

In other words, after notifying the authorities, continue to be a godly wife to your husband showing him love and support, edifying him to his children so that he may be won to God.

I am so blessed and cannot imagine living in an above situation, but if the above describes you, please feel free to e-mail me. I would love to pray with and encourage you.

Next week: Heirs Together in the Grace of Life


Stacie, A Firefighter's Wife said...

Deb, I love your thoughts on this book.

Hey, head over to my place if you want a good laugh! I'm sure you probably have a few stories of your own!

Thena said...

I'm visiting from random dozen, but have enjoyed reading this. I struggle with it alot because there is some things I just can't agree with his thinking.