Friday, January 29, 2010

Studying...Created to be His Help Meet

We are studying the book by Debi Pearl, Created to be His Help Meet. Through our study of this book, we are going to learn what it means to be a help meet and actually living the role that God created us as women to fill. I've read this book once before and applied many of the things that Mrs. Pearl spoke of, and it has transformed an already good marriage into nothing short of awesome!! I encourage you to purchase this book and follow along or at the very least, check out the Pearl's website at Any text taken directly from Mrs. Pearl's book will be highlighted in blue.

I realize that in studying Created to be His Help Meet at the rate of one chapter per week, we will be doing this study for approximately 24 weeks. We could go at this at a much faster rate, but I believe that if we truly want to change and fill our God given rolls as help meet to our husbands, then we need to take things slower and put into practice what we are learning. I hope you agree and stay the course with me as we become better help meets together.

Part 2: Titus 2

Chapter 16: To Love Their Children

The title of this chapter may be a bit misleading. You may think that we're going to talk about how to love our children, but on the contrary--of sorts. Remember this book is about being a better help meet, so.......

Mrs. Pearl asks the question, "How do you love your children?"

The answer? Love, honor, obey and forgive their daddy.

We are told in Proverbs 22:6, that we should, "Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it." (KJV). As mothers, especially those that stay at home, much of that training falls on us. When our husbands leave for work, they are trusting us to not only run the house: wash laundry, clean, cook, etc, he is trusting us to train his children.

Think about the word train. When you train for something, you learn about it. You learn how to do whatever you are training for. With our children, training them means to show them how, teach them. Help them learn how to make a bed, wash laundry, cook a meal, show love and respect and anything and everything else that goes with growing and living. Yes, sometimes it's tough. Yes, sometimes it's exhausting, but it's what we are commanded to do.

There is a time and a place for tv, videos and yes, even certain video or computer games. But nothing can replace baking cookies, learning how to make a bed, sweep the floor, take out the trash, fold the laundry--all by Mama's side.

Nothing is better than snuggling down, after making and enjoying lunch together, with a good book. Nothing is better than sitting down around the dinner table and enjoying conversation and laughter and catching up with each other's day.

Nothing is better than hugging their daddy and giving him a big kiss when he gets home from a hard day at work. Nothing is better than fixing him something to drink and taking the time to look him in the eyes and ask him how his day was and truly listening to him. Nothing is better than encouraging those children to be quiet and respectful when Daddy gets home from work and telling them why--because he works so hard to take care of us.

All of these things and so much more is training our children to be the future husbands and wives---help meets--they are called to be.

This week Mrs. Pearl encourages us to never do anything at home without a "buddy" beside us. She also encourages us to stop many times in a day just to play with or talk to our children. If you have older children, as I do, send them a text or an e-mail to encourage and uplift them.

Next week: To Be Discreet


Collette@Jesuslovesmums said...

excellent advice! what more can I say!
Love Collette xxx

Wylie said...


skoots1mom said...

awesome book...
great advice for all of us :)

Stephanie said...

This book was given to me by my mother when I was still in high school. I can't imagine what my marriage would be like if I hadn't benefitted from it's wisdom way back then! Good to know you're spreading the news. :)