It's Friday and that means I'll be joining Katy Lin over at The Great Adventure to celebrate our hubby's!!
I've only been part of this meme a week or two, but I find myself looking very forward to participating on Fridays.
This week, Katy Lin posed the question, "What makes a happy marriage?"
DH and I have been married a bit over 25 years and today we are more in love with each other than we've ever been.
In our 25 years we have traveled so many paths. The first 8½ years, neither of us knew Jesus. We were living for the moment, partying hard, living fast. We were "good" people, people you wouldn't mind having as neighbors..but we were unsaved and it showed as 7½ years in we were talking divorce.
The next 7 or 8 months proved to be the toughest we'd ever been through before or since.
But God in His Sovereignty, had mercy on us. He put people in our lives that would lead us to Him and it's been uphill ever since.
For us...the secret to a happy marriage is really no secret at all.....It's Jesus.
There is no other way for a marriage to work. God must have every area of a marriage in order for it to be successful.
When God has first place, men desire to be good husbands...women desire to be submissive and good helpmeets.
There is power in numbers--a marriage is two people--but put God in the mix and now there are three. Three is most certainly stronger than 2 in the natural, but since God is Supernatural---well, it's really a no-brainer.
A happy marriage can only be found when you take yourself out of the way and put the other one first. When you do that you're not turning yourself into a doormat, you are loving someone more than self.
A happy marriage is work...it doesn't just happen. There are days when I'm confident I try DH's patience more than he would ever let me know..and I'm sure it's on those days that he'd like to take off running down the street, screaming at the top of his lungs..but the option to leave..to call it quits..is never an option.
A happy marriage is love. Whether you have little or much. Whether you are healthy or fighting an illness. Whether you are working or unemployed. Whether the kids are being wonderful or keeping you up all hours of the night. A happy marriage is sacrificial love....and who can we learn that kind of love from???
The Giver of the most sacrificial love ever...Jesus Christ.
Fall in love with Him, spend time with Him. His love will be shown to you and you can freely and easily pass it on to the one you've vowed to love forever.
4 comments:
How funny... I just commented on another blog that everywhere I go lately, the same message is put in front of me. Submit, be a good helpmeet, work on your marriage.. God KNOWS that I need to hear this right now and to work on it. So thank you for giving me yet another "God sign" of what I need to be doing. I love hearing how well things are going in your marriage; it gives me hope for mine!
That was a great post. I'm so glad you two are happy and enjoying the fruit of your labor. We have been through many different seasons too in our marriage (almost 20 years).
Bless you!
Beth
How wonderful to hear someone with such a solid foundation! I also believe that this is the key to marriage!
Thanks for sharing!
-Ashley
Awesome post, Deb. We've been married 25 years too, and you are so right, divorce is never even to be given a thought much less talked about. When you talk about it you open a door and pretty soon you're walking through it.
God is the one who enables us to love as He is Love! Not only that but love is an action, and when you do the action the feelings follow! I am still in love with my husband after all these years!
BTW, thanks for your sweet words about me on DarcyLee's comments. You are such a sweet friend!
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